Ryn Miake-Lye: Ending the Poverty Cycle Now with Early Ownership

Early ownership is one way for some middle-schoolers to break the cycle of poverty. At a time when their traditional earning power is far undervalued relative to their competencies and talents, resourceful adolescents may start and run a sole proprietorship. Parents can cultivate and encourage their adolescent’s healthy decisions to express generative independence. For student-centered middle schools, early ownership—combined with authentic learn-by-doing/making—can comprise the 21st-century repurposing of home economics/shop. Building on the importance of peer interactions, cooperatives of early-owner businesses can enable working together as needed, while letting each owner run a self-sufficient business as best suits them.

As the first in my family to get an advanced degree, I recall with gratitude the patience of my parents; they didn’t berate me to get a “real job”. Independent graduate and post-doctoral research gave me the freedom and responsibility to carve my own path, to design and execute my own experiments, to discern candidly what I know from what I didn’t know. (All of this would have been impossible, of course, without the teamwork of colleagues and mentors.)  Nevertheless, the satisfaction and independent self-sufficiency of owning my decisions would not recur until I decided 8 years ago to start my own business. As the only person accountable for the performance of my sole proprietorship, the buck truly stops with me.

Might such independent ownership serve as a pivot/sea-change that breaks the cycle of poverty? Let’s imagine a scenario of one early owner, a 13-year-old who starts a business—not for the purpose of rapid growth and/or personal wealth creation, but with a mission of providing at a fair price a service that addresses an unmet need in the early owner’s community. Until the early owner is 15, the revenues from the business are almost the only way that s/he can earn money. (Youth soccer referees are a notable exception.) Through high school, early owners run their own businesses, instead of working in part-time jobs, contribute to the family’s ability to rise, and gain the ability to make independent build/buy/co-create decisions, albeit at a small scale. In preparation for college, early owners can come up with location-free or portable versions of their businesses – these become self-determined work-study experiences. By their senior year, the difference is telling and dramatic. Instead of hitting the job market burdened with six-figure debt and competing against their classmates for unpaid internships and entry-level jobs, our early owner has an 8-year-old self-sufficient independent business. S/he could even be in a position to be a 21-year-old hiring manager, who never has to ask anyone for a job. Admittedly, our early owner is not every adolescent. Nevertheless, what is striking is that there is no prerequisite for inherited or unearned capital, old-boy networks or helicopter parents. All that is needed are human traits and qualities: an ability to perceive unmet need, inventiveness as to how to address it, responsiveness to customers/clients, and persistence to make the business work.

4 Questions for Getting from a Cool Idea to Early Ownership

1. What is the (first) service I’m going to sell?

Avoid boiling the ocean. Even if you think your cool idea has the power to do so.

2. Who are my customers?

Note: “Anyone who will pay” is not an adequate answer. The more specifically you define the customer whose pain point is exactly the service you are offering, the smoother your start-up will be.

3. How will my customers and I connect?

Note:  If your business is built on cultivating repeat customers and trust-based relationships, you won’t need to keep finding as many new customers (but self-marketing never stops). The first step in building any relationship is a conversation to determine if there is overlap in intent.

4. How will the money work?

Note:  There is likely to be more than one good answer to this. Talk to several folks who have started their own businesses. Among these, SCORE is high-quality and helpful (http://www.scoreboston.org/ ) and their price is right.

Ownership doesn’t have to be early. (My first foray into business ownership came within months of my 50th birthday.)  If the scenario we imagined intrigues you, please consider trying it out yourself. Do you.  I heard someone cite an estimate that 75,000,000 Americans want to start their own business within the next 5 years. You are not alone. If you are afraid to try, buy the original Broadway version of Rodgers & Hammerstein’s “Whistle a Happy Tune” on iTunes. Timeless advice.

 

Related Material

Self-Renewal: The Individual and the Innovative Society by John Gardner.

Societal renewal and ending the cycle of poverty through rising seem related. First written in 1963, this is beautifully written and timeless.

Do You!: 12 Laws to Access the Power in You to Achieve Happiness and Success by Russell Simmons

Please have a look at the chapter titles online. If they resonate, so will the text of the book.

Founder Institute: How To Launch In 10 Steps With Less Than $2,000 http://techcrunch.com/2010/08/29/founder-institute-how-to-launch-in-10-steps-with-less-than-2000/

The steps are in the right order for a high-tech start-up; each owner may have a different approach to specific steps. The take home:  Founder Institute’s CEO Adeo Ressi shows you that you don’t have to be wealthy to start a company. (http://fi.co )

 

 

 

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Race, Class, and Culture

This week’s mission moment comes to you from none other than the Oscars.
Last Friday, someone sent me an article from the LA Times about the demographics of the Academy, which votes for the Oscar winners.  It turns out, “Oscar voters are nearly 94% Caucasian and 77% male… Blacks are about 2% of the academy, and Latinos are less than 2%.”
All weekend, I kept thinking about these demographics, and about the weight that the judgment of this lopsided group carries.  The Oscars make and break careers.  They imply what talent looks like, as well as what beauty looks like.  Oscars literally define what is good and bad in film around the world.  And in a country heavily driven by an entertainment culture,  that means they define a lot about what’s good and bad in general..
What’s the point?  Catholic Charities USA talks about the “unearned portfolio of assets” that white men, and white people, in America start life with compared to others.  We may not be aware of it, but it’s there.  If that’s true, then the opposite must also be true.  If you don’t have that portfolio, then you are behind in your assets.  The Oscars are a remarkable example of a group of people with a strong portfolio of unearned assets unintentionally stacking the deck in favor of those same assets year after year.
Sunday night, there were two African-American acting nominees.  Octavia Spencer won for Best Supporting Actress, which a black woman won last year, too.  The male nominees for best actor were George Clooney, Brad Pitt, an French actor who looked like a Franco-Clooney/Pitt and Gary Oldman (whose acting prowess tends to give him a pass from not sharing the Clooney/Pitt ‘portfolio of assets’).  The fifth nominee was a Mexican actor named Damian Bichir.  On the flip side, Bichir definitely is of the Clooney/Pitt/French guy ilk.
There were two heavy women nominated, a trend that seems to be increasing, even as the acceptable dress size gets smaller.  And Christopher Plummer was the oldest person ever to receive an acting Oscar at 82.
So, the Oscars are making progress, but especially when it comes to race, there’s still a very long way to go.
At Boston Rising, we search for ways to talk about institutionalized racism and other forms of oppression, and to illustrate the struggles and slow progress associated with trying to succeed in a world where someone else not only holds the keys to success, but also its definition.  Turns out, the Oscars hosted a 3.5 hour illustration for us just the other night
Up we go!
Tiziana
Tiziana C. Dearing
Chief Executive Officer
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Josh Kraft: Mentoring in Boston

It was an honor to discuss mentoring at Boston Rising with such a great group of people. We’re extremely lucky at Boys & Girls Clubs of Boston to have a staff that is so committed to the work they do. They are great examples of mentors that are making a positive impact in the lives of young people. Quite often, I don’t think staff members realize how much of a positive effect they have on the population they are working with day after day. Their work does not go unnoticed. The generous supporters of BGCB often visit the Clubs and always consistently comment on the level of dedication amongst the staff.

Working with young people is not always easy, which makes the staff’s dedication only more impressive. The staff proves that to be a good mentor doesn’t mean that one has to have the answers to all of life’s questions or the solution to every teenager’s problems. The best mentors are those that are approachable and dependable. These two traits form the foundation for the ideal mentor-mentee relationship, building trust for mentees to share what’s happening in their lives and feel valued and respected.  Thanks for allowing me to share these thoughts and all of us at Boys & Girls Clubs of Boston look forward to further partnering with the dedicated and passionate staff at Boston Rising to make our city a better place for all of us.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LT9CwJg4Ipw

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Mission Moment: We are the Rising Class

Happy belated Valentine’s Day to all of Boston Rising’s friends.  It’s a complicated holiday, but I’m a big fan of things that make us focus on whatever love we’re blessed to have in our lives.

The mission moment this week comes courtesy of WGBH, the New York Times and the BBC.  They co-produce a radio program called The Takeaway that runs on some member NPR stations.  Having read a Huffington Post blog I did the previous week on the Rising Class in response to Mitt Romney’s now-famous, “I’m not concerned about the very poor,” comments after the Florida primary, they invited me onto The Takeaway to discuss the Rising Class concept.

One of the things I argue in my blog is that we fail to understand today’s economic phenomena if we fail to understand we’re all in the Rising Class.  You’ve heard me, and us, talk about this before.  We all want to rise.  Some of us have a harder time getting a hold of, and holding on to, the tools for rising – an education that gets you a shot at a job, a job that lets you build some assets over time, and the social connections undergirding both.  Today, the struggle to rise is being shared by a broader swath of the population.  That’s an opportunity to understand and address a shared experience, rather than divide ourselves by class.

I raise the radio show as a mission moment for two reasons.  First, they wanted more people to hear about the idea of the Rising Class.  Their producers understood the argument I was making, and found it interesting enough that they thought other people should hear it, too.  That’s tells me that we’re on to something.  It also tells me that people are hungry to understand what’s happening to us all in a new way, and are open to ideas that call us to a shared experience and a sense of shared identity.  I find that deeply encouraging.

Second, they put a trucking distribution driver on the show with me.  Kate is a white woman from Maryland who had written to them after Romney’s comments expressing her own frustration with the way she felt she and other middle class Americans were subsidizing both the “very poor” and the “very rich.”  When I listened to her, both before and after my own comments, I was struck by how un-caricature like she was.  She was a real person with a varied set of beliefs and concerns about poverty, the economy, race and the middle class.  While I disagreed with a good chunk of what she said, I was once again encouraged that someone who came to the conversation feeling angry was still so anxious to have a complex, open and real conversation about rising.  That bodes well.

If you have nine minutes, I encourage you to listen to the piece, and to Kate. We’re circling around a genuine and much-needed conversation here.  I believe the Rising Class gives us a way to get at it.

Up we go!

Tiziana

Tiziana C. Dearing
Chief Executive Officer

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Talia Rivera: Black Boys and Education

My son will be going into the 6th grade in September.  Like me, he is Black.

I am hastily looking for the right junior high school for him to attend. A school that fits who he is. Danny is very creative.  He spends most of his time taking old shoe boxes, jeans, water bottles, glue, and paint to create the most interesting messes. My son needs a school environment that’ll stimulate his inventiveness and style of learning; if not, he’ll be in deep trouble.

In The Trouble with Black Boys: The Role and Influence of Environmental and Cultural Factors on the Academic Performance of African American Males by Pedro A. Noguera, Ph. D, Professor in the Graduate School of Education at Harvard University states, “All of the most important quality of life indicators suggest that African American males are in deep trouble.”

Black men lead the nation in homicides, both as victims and perpetrators.

Black men have the fastest growing rate for suicide.

“For the last several years Black males have been contracting HIV and AIDS at a faster rate than any other segment of the population,” according to Noguera. 

Black men incarceration, conviction, and arrest rates are at the top of the charts in most states.

“Even as babies, Black males have the highest probability of dying in the first year of life, and as they grow older they face the unfortunate reality of being the only group in the United States experiencing a decline in life expectancy.”

Noguera’s research points out that “in the labor market, Blacks are the least likely to be hired, and in many cities, the most likely to be unemployed.”

In my pursuit to preclude my son from these indicators, I found a private school I thought might be a good fit. So I scheduled a tour.  I took the tour with a Caucasian husband and wife.

The school is beautiful.  There is a full art studio.  The paint from the students’ brushes smeared the tables; they look like masterpieces.                           

After the tour, the parents met separately with an admission counselor. 

The counselor asked, “What’s Danny like? What are his weaknesses?  His strengths?”

The counselor then proceeded to tell me about the admissions process. She got up from her seat and walked over to her desk.  She reached for a piece of paper then handed it to me.

“The financial aid application is due in a week,” she said.  “We’re strict about our financial aid deadline.”

I mused. Why did she presume I need financial aid? Was it because I was Black?

Did the Caucasian husband and wife who toured the school with me get the same talk and piece of paper?

Honestly, I was humiliated. I felt ashamed that I didn’t have the money to get my son the education he deserves.

Irrespective of what led her to believe I need financial aid, the truth is, I do.

The truth is: I need help so my son can raise above all the statistics waiting for him.

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Audrey Jordan: Being Who You Are and Acting Accordingly

Along with reciprocity, at the top of Boston Rising’s list of values is integrity.  What do we mean by integrity?  Walking our talk, doing what we say we will do, speaking truth to power, being who we say we are.  As it relates to the question of values, integrity means having the courage of our convictions – acting consistently with our stated beliefs.  More than a list of phrases on a piece of paper, our values ought to be visible in our actions.

This sounds straightforward, but is not at all easy to do. It will require constant effort, learning and more effort.  I am reminded of the complexity involved in being who you are by a current best-selling book by Baratunde Thurston  called “How to Be Black.” With biting humor and witty story-telling, Thurston and his panel get beyond relentless stereotypes and explore the ironies and insights linked to the experience of being Black.  Clearly, living beyond stereotypes is not solely a challenge for Black people.  No doubt readers of Thurston’s book who are female, young, elderly, gay or some other label will be able to identify with the complexity of navigating halls of power and privilege with one’s integrity intact.  Being your enlightened self takes a lot of everyday intentionality!

During this Black History month while pondering our value of integrity and the struggles ahead, I am especially awed by the uncompromising courage of African American ancestors and their allies who marched and boycotted, and withstood fire hoses, police dogs, angry mobs and oppressive authorities – even lost their lives – demanding the rights to be the fully respected human beings.  “Sing a song, full of the faith that the dark past has taught us.  Sing a song full of the hope that the present has brought us.  Facing the rising sun of our new day begun, let us march on ‘til victory is won!”  Those powerful words from “Lift Every Voice and Sing,” pay tribute and are a constant reminder of from where we as a society have come.  Our ancestors are the models of how to be Black, how to be fully human, how to be authentic, how to live in integrity.

We have much hope at Boston Rising, even while we have our eyes wide open about the challenges inherent in striving toward our aspiration to contribute boldly to the elimination of intergenerational poverty in Boston.  We know that we will need to go forward with courage, intentionality and integrity.

Up We Go!

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Tiziana Dearing: The Very Poor, the Middle Class and the Real Economic Challenge of 2012

Originally published in the Huffington Post

The Republican presidential race is giving those of us focused on poverty a lot of fodder. The latest comes courtesy of Mitt Romney in Florida with his now-famous, if unfortunate, sound bite, “I’m not concerned about the very poor.” Romney complains that the quote was taken out of context. Even in context, it reveals a lack of understanding about key facts that we need to grasp if most Americans are going to be able to live the lives they want.

Here is Mr. Romney’s whole quote
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I’m in this race because I care about Americans. I’m not concerned about the very poor. We have a safety net there. If it needs repair, I’ll fix it. I’m not concerned about the very rich. They’re doing just fine. I’m concerned about the very heart of America.

 

Let’s leave the implication that the very poor and very rich somehow aren’t “Americans” for another day. I don’t think Mitt Romney was saying he doesn’t actually care about the “very poor.” In fact, I believe he does care — as do most reasonable people. But he clearly doesn’t understand what “very poor” means, or how it relates to the middle class today.

To start, Romney has the “very poor” to “very rich” continuum sideways. It’s vertical, and he clearly sees it as horizontal. For those who don’t enjoy spatial relations, let me illustrate.

Imagine if Romney had said, “I’m not concerned about the very far Left because Reason A, and I’m not concerned about the very far Right because Reason B.” Those represent extremes on a horizontal continuum, running from the left to the right. Both ends are opposites, but the implication is that they are also equal in status. For some reason, each end is adequately taken care of, so one safely can focus on the middle.

Romney put the very poor and the very rich on just such a horizontal continuum. But they aren’t. They are on a vertical continuum that runs from bottom to top. And while being on the bottom of that continuum is opposite from being on top, it is definitely not equal. The social safety net at best keeps people from falling into desperation. So, no, both ends are not sufficiently taken care of that one safely can focus on the middle.

Second, Romney pits the poor against the middle class in a way that not only is unhelpful, but also shows a lack of understanding of the current American economic experience.

At Boston Rising, we think of all Americans as part of a single class. We call it the Rising Class. That’s not just some can’t-we-all-get-along platitude. It reflects our deep understanding of and commitment to the American Dream – in this country, you get the tools to rise, to be who you want to be and to make the life you want, and then it’s up to you. We all are part of the Rising Class. Historically, though, some of us have had better access to the tools for rising.

That’s where Romney’s understanding is flawed. The very poor are very experienced with barriers to rising. The truth for them is that the tools — things like education, an upwardly-mobile job, a decent social network, some savings — are hard to get a hold of, and hard to hold onto once obtained.

In this most recent economic crisis, large swaths of the middle class are sharing that same experience. It’s harder to put away some savings, get through high school and college, get a job that has a future, etc. Our social networks are weaker, and they are harder to rely on because everyone’s busy, everyone’s looking, and everyone is in the same leaky financial boat.

When Romney says he is focused on Americans, the heart of our country, and then says that’s the middle class but not the poor, he’s creating a false dichotomy. Those are all members of the Rising Class who can’t get a hold of the tools for rising. Our solutions should not focus on picking one over the other, making one more American or more important than the other. Our solutions should focus on restoring the basic building blocks of the American Dream and then making them accessible to as many people as possible. What is to our economy today as the GI Bill was to soldiers after World War II?

If we stop calling it sideways when it’s up and down, and if we focus less on class and more on Rising Class, we can get busy with the task at hand — restoring the conditions to participate in the American Dream. Ultimately, we could get a whole lot more members of the Rising Class who could become the very rich.

Then we could stop worrying about them. They probably really are OK.

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Mission Moment: Stories of Rising

Dear Friends,

Unbelievably, 1/12th of 2012 already is behind us.  The bridge between past and future is what’s on my mind as I write this week’s mission moment.

As most Bostonians know, former Mayor Kevin White passed at the end of last week.  He served as mayor from 1968 to 1984, and is largely credited with leading Boston out of the final remnants of the Great Depression and into a new prosperity.  He also led Boston during the tumultuous years of racial tension in the late 1960s and early 1970s, culminating in the bussing crisis of 1974, the repercussions of which we still feel throughout our city today.  I never knew Mayor White, but he had a profound influence on a whole generation of Boston leadership – many of whom I call friends and colleagues today.  I am deeply sorry for their grief.

Not 48 hours before the announcement of Mayor White’s death, Boston Rising was privileged to have two other Boston greats who were contemporaries of Mayor White in our kitchen, talking about what it means to rise.  Mel King and Hubie Jones joined about 35 avid listeners to talk about the truth of what it takes to rise, the history of the work to end poverty in Boston, and the challenges we continue to face today.  Both Jones and King remain strong leaders in Boston’s black and non-profit communities, and everyone who attended felt like they’d heard something one of a kind.  We were lucky to have them with us.

Each day at Boston Rising, we are trying to do something new.  We are trying to practice philanthropy in a new way, to end the cycle of poverty in a new way, and in a way that really does end it.  Mayor White did much that was new for Boston. Mel King and Hubie Jones continue to work to break ground, bridging the lessons of yesterday with the needs and new realities of today.

We need it all, and we need to build those bridges from yesterday to tomorrow with great care.  That means telling ourselves our collective history over and over again, holding up every side to understand what we think worked and didn’t, went wonderfully and badly, carries forward today or has run its course.  It also means intentionally laying the groundwork for the next generation of leadership. Investing in emerging ideas, organizations and people, and making sure they understand our past while imagining what our city will become.

Last week brought home so strongly the rich past and present of leadership in our city.  Forty years from now, when we are still learning from and remembering the next generation, I firmly believe the richness will be there, too.

Up we go!

Tiziana

Tiziana Dearing
Chief Executive Officer

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Tiziana Dearing: The Real Debate We Need

Originally published in the Huffington Post

Probably too much already has been made of Newt Gingrich’s meteoric re-rise to popularity during last week’s South Carolina primary. The world has moved on to Florida and the State of the Union. Still, the combination of cynicism and deflection Gingrich used in his celebrated (or notorious) debate appearances does us all a disservice, and needs to be examined more closely.

We all know Gingrich was a firebrand during the South Carolina debates. In particular, two iconic moments cast him as the red-meat political fighter that arguably catapulted him to the lead, and to primary victory. The first, his unapologetic indignation over John King’s question about his marital infidelities is far outside my wheelhouse. But the hay he made in his exchange with black debate moderator Juan Williams, when Williams pushed him about his comments on food stamps, couldn’t be more in the wheelhouse for someone focused on poverty. It was disingenuous and cynical in a way that hurts our ability to have a real conversation about security and stability for the poor and working poor.

We can get to disingenuous in a minute. Let’s start with cynical. Back on Jan. 6, Gingrich caused controversy by offering to go to the convention of the NAACP and “talk about why the African American community should demand paychecks and not be satisfied with food stamps.” When Juan Williams asked Gingrich if he could understand how those comments and others he had made might be offensive to those in poverty in general, and to racial minorities in particular, Gingrich looked him in the eye and said, “No.”

Really?

I find that remarkable. Gingrich is running for president of all of the United States — that means poor and rich, black, white, brown and any other shade. One who aspires to represent our broad population ought to be able to read its various moods.

The comments also were cynical because someone of Gingrich’s intelligence can’t have missed the parallels between the old “welfare queen” language of the 1980s and this new “food stamp” language. Calling President Obama the food stamp president has a racial undertone to it — whether Gingrich intended that or not is unknowable. It still does. The struggle to make ends meet is not a racial issue: It’s an American issue. We experience it as one, and we need to tackle it as one – undivided.

Gingrich’s debate remarks about food stamps were also disingenuous. Let’s start with the facts about SNAP enrollment. (SNAP is the proper term today for “food stamps.”)

In many states, historically, woefully few families eligible for SNAP benefits were enrolled to receive them. As food insecurity among the poor and working poor increased in the U.S., ensuring people accessed a food security benefit already in place became a priority. Therefore, federal, state and local officials began pushing for dramatic increases in food stamps, and then SNAP enrollment before the 2008 recession.

Indeed, the Wall Street Journal itself noted that enrollment in SNAP went up by more than 50 percent during the administration of President George W. Bush. The New York Times reported in a 2009 article that “the Bush Administration led a campaign to erase the program’s stigma, calling food stamps ‘nutritional aid’ instead of welfare, and made it easier to apply.”

In my own state of Massachusetts, SNAP enrollment was up 73 percent over the five years prior in 2008. It must be noted that it was up 103 percent over the five years prior in 2010. Nationally, participation of eligible working poor families was at just 66 percent in 2007. Enrollment in 2009, however, was up 41 percent over the five years prior. These trends were the intersection of two patterns — increasing financial hardship and a multi-administration push to support struggling Americans with SNAP.

Reasonable people can disagree about the role of government in providing for the emergency and transitional needs of its citizens facing hardship. I believe that a support like SNAP, when coupled with strong supports to help Americans build assets and futures, can be a good role for government to play. There are other legitimate views on the role of government, however, and we need that debate badly now.

That the American people — including those unfairly stigmatized as “the poor” — are in need of some help, however, really can’t be argued. According to a late 2011 report by the Population Reference Bureau, nearly one in three working families in the United States is struggling to make ends meet:

Forty-six million people, including 23 million children, lived in low-income working families in 2010–an increase of 1.6 million people from the previous year. The number of children in low-income working families increased by more than 500,000 in just one year.

 

That brings us to the last reason Gingrich’s remarks were unfortunate. Gingrich is right that the trajectory for rising in this country is first to get a job, then get a better one, and then “own the job.” When he laments the lack of improvement in unemployment since the start of the recession, fair enough. Even Fareed Zakaria recently noted that it could take five years to get employment back to pre-recession levels.

Those economic challenges, the ones faced by the vast majority of people in the U.S. of all races — people who want to get ahead and be in America’s Rising Class but can’t get their hands on the tools for rising — are what we should be discussing in 2012. And we should be doing so united, not divided.

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Audrey Jordan: Insights on Reciprocity

A recent conversation with a valued colleague, Imari Paris Jeffries, helped me to understand the difference between equilibrium and balance.  Before having this discussion, I thought of these two concepts as pretty much the same thing.  But as he explained it, he used the analogy of sharing the responsibilities in a healthy marriage.  Balance is where one spouse agrees to cook the meals three nights, the other three nights, and both do the meals together the other day that is left.  The task split right down the middle — mathematically equal.  Equilibrium factors in context, interest, relative convenience.  It would be where one spouse might do all the meals (because they agree that one is the better cook), the other spouse takes care of the bills (because they agree that one is better at keeping the accounts balanced); then every now and then one spouse agrees to spring for dinner to give the spouse that cooks a break; the other spouse might agree to pay an accountant to get the taxes done during tax season to give the one who keeps the accounts a well-deserved break.  What is the difference between balance and equilibrium?  Balance is keeping score, equilibrium (a much more dynamic process), is keeping the focus on harmony and growth in the relationship, and the relationship feels better for all concerned – which is the point of all the sharing of the load in the first place.

As I consider reciprocity — the give-get principle at the heart of Boston Rising’s vision of co-investment — equilibrium, not balance has to be the spirit that underlies the exchanges.  Each gives what each is capable of giving while taking when the need arises.  If the spirit is that in our giving and taking  it is all about bettering ourselves to help better ours and others’ circumstances — to strengthen our relationships, our network, and our community so we all can rise — then it will be so.  And we all grow in strength and pursuit of happiness.   This is the spirit I see as I see and participate in Boston Rising’s evolution and watch and help the work unfold.  I am not saying we have the balance right yet, and am sure that it will be an ongoing enterprise — I am saying it is not about the balance!   It is about equilibrium.

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